<p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/beccabellamy/posts?tag=advice%20from%20a%20mistress">Click here</a> to read the previous part of the story.</p><p><img data-media-id="55172957" src="/31/02/3102563e4639f840c5fabc279401de07e886e55dd9f590589428183860ae44b4.jpg"></p><p>Dear Sarah,</p><p>For now I think it would be wise to mix in a bit of vanilla sex along with the femdom play. Let me try and explain why.</p><p>It’s quite likely that Jacob will be dealing with feelings he either doesn’t understand or doesn’t particularly want to feel. He almost certainly enjoyed the femdom play you initiated, but it’s the enjoyment of it that will likely generate those difficult feelings for him.</p><p>In general, men believe they are supposed to be strong and tough and act like alpha males all the time. That tends to bleed into the bedroom, and having you sit on his face until you cum, tease his cock without letting him inside you, and generally take control runs counter to what is likely Jacob’s understand of what it means to be a man. Because of that, he’ll need a little time to adjust to the new approach to sex that you want to take.</p><p>That’s okay, though. The truth is, you need time to adjust to it too. Plus, it’s nice to play things slow. Just think of all the fun you can have as a dominant girl. There’s years worth of stuff you can try. I promise.</p><p>There are always ways to add just a little bit of femdom to the vanilla sex, too. If you’re having missionary sex, give his ass a few swats while he fucks you, or give it a possessive squeeze. If you’re on top, try something simple like insisting that he not thrust up into you. Make it so that he just lays there while you use his cock for your pleasure. It’s very close to vanilla, but it’s just a small step away.</p><p>Feel free to stop having sex in any position you don’t like, too. If you do doggystyle just for him, then stop. Only do it if you want to do it. Ultimately, if he’s going to be a good submissive partner for you then he should find genuine pleasure in doing what makes you feel best.</p><p>If you have any more questions, don’t hesitate to ask, and as with before, I’d love to hear about any progress you’re making with Jacob.</p><p>Becca</p><p>~~~~~</p><p>Dear Becca,</p><p>So I tried that little trick you mentioned about getting on top and telling him not to do anything. Normally Jacob likes to play with my breasts, grab my ass, thrust up into me, etc. All of that feels quite good so it’s not like he’s doing something I hate, but it was actually quite fun to stop him from doing so.</p><p>I put on a little bit of lingerie. I find that I quite like the way he looks at me when I emerge from the bathroom dressed in something fetching. The way his eyes seem to devour my body is exciting and it actually makes me feel kind of powerful. I hope someday he’ll look at me the same way when I emerge in a leather corset or a pair of thigh high latex boots.</p><p>Today it was a bodysuit. I love a bodysuit. This one was made from black lace with a semi-sheer material across my breasts. I’d bought it just a few days earlier. Jacob did that thing where he stared like he was devouring me with his eyes.</p><p>I stripped him naked and crawled on top of him. We kissed as his hands moved over the lingerie, exploring my body and eliciting the kinds of moans every man loves to hear from a woman.</p><p>When I was nice and wet and he was nice and hard I pulled on the little snap to free my pussy and took Jacob’s cock in my hand. I sat across his thighs and stroked him as I smiled.</p><p>“Do you want me to take you inside me?” I asked.</p><p>“Yes,” he said. “Damn right I do.”</p><p>I played with the head of his cock and rubbed the precum around, making it slippery and eliciting lusty moans from Jacob.</p><p>“Will you do something for me?” I asked.</p><p>“Anything.”</p><p>I straddled his cock and rubbed the head over my pussy lips before taking just a little bit of him inside me.</p><p>“Do nothing,” I said. “Don’t reach up and touch me. Don’t push your cock up inside me. Just lay there. Let me use your cock. Let me fuck you.”</p><p>I saw this little flash of joy on his face. I can’t tell you how much it turned me on.</p><p>“Okay,” he said.</p><p>I sank down on his cock and rested my hands on his chest. I dug my fingernails into his skin just a little. I saw the flash of pain on his face. The smile that followed turned me on.</p><p>I moved back and forth on his cock just a little. I gave him a taste of the pleasure of being inside me. I watched his face. I saw the joy he felt.</p><p>I liked that I could actually see him fighting off his urges to do what we usually did. He lifted his hands off the bed and dropped them back down a few times. He reached up to pull my mouth to his for a kiss and then relented and stopped.</p><p>“Just lay there, baby,” I said. “Just let there and let me fuck you.”</p><p>I know they’re just words, but they turned me on. It felt like the littlest taste of the kind role reversal that makes things like pegging play look so hot to me. It wasn’t really that – his cock was still inside me, after all – but I was the one in control and he was the one passively laying there. That’s what made it feel so hot.</p><p>Eventually I did more than just tease him with a little back and forth action. Eventually I rode him hard. I bounced furiously on his cock and it got wonderfully loud in the bedroom. It actually felt a little like I was using him. I know he found it pleasurable – he did cum, after all – but it was me kind of using him like a living dildo.</p><p>I had a really good orgasm. Better than the orgasm I’d experienced during our vanilla missionary sex a few nights prior. It was fueled by just a bit of domination, like you said, and it was incredible.</p><p>I took a short break after my orgasm and then went back at it to make Jacob cum. It didn’t take long, especially once I started telling him to cum inside me. That always seems to get him going. He did a little bit of thrusting when he was cumming, but that seemed reasonable to me. Men can’t really control themselves when they’re cumming.</p><p>So, thanks for that bit of advice. It worked better than I thought it would have, honestly.</p><p>Now I’m wondering how I take this to the next level. It seems like Jacob is turned on by the notion of being dominated, so how do I find out if that’s actually true?</p><p>Sarah</p><p>~~~~~</p><p>Dear Sarah,</p><p>You’ve probably reached the point where it’s time to talk to Jacob about your desire to dominate him. He’s probably gotten the hint to a certain extent, so it might not be as surprising to him as you might think.</p><p>I would start by telling Jacob that you’re really turned on by the idea of dominating him. Then share with him the fact that you’ve already done it in some small measure. Tell him how good the orgasms you had were. If he’s submissive – as I suspect he might be – he’ll find the idea of you having really good orgasms exceptionally appealing. He’ll want to provide you with more of those.</p><p>If he’s supportive, tell him that you want to keep experimenting. Tell him that you want to try new ways of dominating him. Tell him that as long as he’s willing, you’re going to find new ways to expand your sex life and bring you both the kind of pleasure you crave.</p><p>Then, if I may, I would suggest a game. First, talk to Jacob on a Saturday morning, or perhaps a Friday night after work. When you do, suggest that you want to play a dominant game all weekend.</p><p>Tell him that for the weekend you’re going to be playing an orgasm exchange game where he gets to cum once for every 3, 4, or 5 times he makes you cum (you should choose a number that seems reasonable as you definitely want him to cum once or twice over the course of the weekend).</p><p>Chances are good he’ll be into the idea. Once you know he is, you direct him to his place between your legs. You let him worship your pussy. You encourage him while he’s doing it. Remember, now you’ve openly admitted that you want to dominate him so it’s okay to be more open in doing so. Try out a little verbal play. See what he responds to. Does he like being called a good boy while he’s worshiping your pussy? Does he like talk that’s a little dirtier? What do you respond to? Is there one particular turn of phrase that turns you on more when Jacob is between your legs?</p><p>After he’s gotten you off that first time, be sure to tease him. Pull out his cock. Play with it. Tease him about how he doesn’t get to cum until he makes you cum the prescribed number of times.</p><p>The important thing with this game is your willingness to be in control. Jacob may be so desperate to cum that he tries to get you off 4 or 5 times in an hour. If that’s not what you want you need to have the confidence to stop him. You can’t let him dominate from the submissive position. You have to be in control.</p><p>I wouldn’t recommend punishing him yet, but you’re allowed to get angry if Jacob refuses to actually act like a good submissive. I would recommend a conversation about it at this point, though. Remember, he needs to learn how to be a submissive like you need to learn how to dominate him. Neither of you is going to be great at it the first time you do it, so you have to give him space to grow along with you.</p><p>Don’t worry too much about that, though. I promise you’ll have fun with it. I’d love to hear how the conversation goes and whether or not you had fun playing a little orgasm game over the weekend.</p><p>Becca</p><p>~~~~~</p><p>Dear Becca,</p><p>I had 14 orgasms in the roughly 52 hour span from the time I proposed the orgasm game you mentioned on Friday night to right now as I sit down to write this email. That’s definitely the most orgasms I’ve ever had in that short a time span. Even better, they were all really, really good orgasms.</p><p>So the conversation actually went pretty well. I did as you suggested and sat Jacob down after we’d had dinner on Friday night. I told him that I was really, really into the idea of female domination and talked about the little ways in which I’d experimented with it so far.</p><p>He wasn’t as shy as I thought he might be about it. He was actually kind of excited. He talked about how much he’d enjoyed the first little game with the facesitting and the teasing handjob in particular. He mentioned how good his orgasm had been when I fucked him, too. Honestly, he didn’t really seem to have any misgivings about the notion of being dominated. I’m quite certain he’s not really familiar with what being a submissive means or whether or not he actually is submissive, but he was more than happy to go along for the ride.</p><p>That’s when I proposed the game. I told him that he’d have to make me cum 5 times for every orgasm I was going to give him. Thinking about what you’d said, I told him that I had the right to refuse his desire to go down on me and that he couldn’t simply spend his weekend between my legs trying to lick me to dozens of orgasms. I told him he’d have to work for it.</p><p>Then I told him to make me cum. He seemed a little surprised at the bossy tone of my voice, but I was feeling myself at that point and I wanted him to get to work.</p><p>He dropped to his knees, he pulled my panties aside, and he ate my pussy like a good boy. By the way, I discovered that I really love calling him that. I can’t even tell you. It feels so good every time I say it and I don’t understand why. It doesn’t really matter, but damn is it good.</p><p>It’s still so early, but I think I prefer a more sensual kind of female domination. I’ve never really enjoyed videos where the woman is yelling at the guy or beating his ass or abusing him verbally. It just doesn’t seem sexy to me, especially with someone I actually love and care about like Jacob.</p><p>As a little aside, I watched a video this weekend – yes, in between all the orgasms Jacob was giving me – where a woman was slowly, sensually fucking her husband with a strapon while whispering all these sweet nothings into his ear. It was so hot! So, so hot! I don’t know if Jacob will ever be into that, but I absolutely must try it at some point.</p><p>Anyway, it seemed like he enjoyed the “good boy” comments too. The first time I said it he moaned into my pussy. I discovered that I like getting just a little bit aggressive in grabbing his hair, too. That felt really good, honestly. It felt really, really good to do it as I got close to cumming. I know it’s as simple as feeling like I’m taking control of him, but that’s quite wonderful. Obviously, I like being in control.</p><p>I did as you said after that first orgasm he gave me. I had him stand up, I pulled off his pants, and I wrapped my fingers around his cock. I stroked him as I looked up at him. I kissed the head of his cock. I teased him. Then I smiled and put his cock away. I told him he’d have to earn his orgasm. I told him he’d have to be a good boy four more times and then he’d get to cum like he wanted.</p><p>It might have been a little mean, but I didn’t let him make me cum that fifth time on Friday night. I wanted him desperate when he woke up Saturday. He was, too.</p><p>I’d gotten up earlier than him and was just finishing up making breakfast when he walked into the kitchen.</p><p>He didn’t say anything. He spun me around, dropped to his knees in front of me, and looked up as he slipped his fingers into the waistband of my pajama shorts.</p><p>I nodded and he pulled them down along with my panties. I loved that he’d waited for permission. It was a small thing but it felt like a huge step. Already he was being such a good boy.</p><p>I wasn’t the slightest bit turned on before he came into the kitchen, but the sight of Jacob on his knees and desperately worshiping my pussy was enough to drive me crazy with desire. Before long I was reaching down and grabbing a handful of his hair. I pulled his face between my legs. I practically smothered him with my pussy. I loved the way he looked as I stood and he kneeled before me. I felt so powerful in that moment.</p><p>I came hard. A little bit of juice leaked out of me, in fact. It was spectacularly sexy.</p><p>“Stand up,” I said afterwards.</p><p>Jacob stood up and I pushed his pajama pants down and grabbed his cock. I stood on my toes and pulled him closer. I took his cock between my legs and rubbed my pussy lips over it. We were essentially having outercourse. He couldn’t penetrate me from that angle. I was simply rubbing my pussy all over his dick. It was enough to make him cum, though. It took a few minutes, but after whispering in his ear about what a good boy he was being Jacob spilled his seed right onto the kitchen cabinet. He even cleaned it up afterwards.</p><p>Jacob made me cum six times in total on Saturday. The last orgasm was right before bed, and while I could have waited until Sunday morning to make him cum, I felt like he deserved what he’d earned.</p><p>This time I resolved to give him a handjob and make it take a little longer. Once again I changed into a sexy little lingerie set. I went with something soft and feminine. It was pink and oh so beautiful.</p><p>I sprayed on a bit of perfume and climbed into bed with my naked boyfriend. His cock was already hard and pointing towards the ceiling. I wrapped my fingers around it as I kissed his neck and gently nibbled on his earlobe, which was spectacularly fun.</p><p>“Tell me, Jacob, do you enjoy it when I’m in control?” I asked in a soft whisper.</p><p>“Yes, very much so,” he said as I played with the head of his cock.</p><p>“Really, or are you just saying what you know I want to hear?”</p><p>“No, Sarah, I really enjoy it. I do. I promise. You don’t have to convince me. You don’t,” he said.</p><p>I smiled and kissed him. I pushed my tongue into his mouth and he eagerly accepted it. He even sucked on it a little, which was so much hotter than I thought it would be.</p><p>“Does that mean you like being a good boy for me?” I asked.</p><p>Jacob groaned and, much to my surprise, had an orgasm. I was going to make the handjob last, but I clearly failed at that. It turns out Jacob really likes being a good boy for me. It turns out that spending a day worshiping my pussy was enough to get him to a place of extreme arousal and make him cum hard and fast.</p><p>As I mentioned above, he made me cum 14 times, which means he never got his last orgasm. That was my choice, really. I could have let him make me cum again. I chose not to. He was definitely frustrated. We ended up having a little talk about it. We discussed that sometimes he was going to be frustrated. That’s just how it was going to go.</p><p>Instead of letting him go down on me again we cuddled. It ended up being me as the big spoon, though. I ran my hands over him and said soothing things. I played with his cock a little to tease him. It actually felt like a whole new way of dominating him and I quite liked it.</p><p>Thank you again, Becca. I’m sure I’ll be in touch again as more questions come up.</p><p>Sarah</p>